“I’ve never talked to a ca-counselor before,” Cassandra (not her real name) stuttered. She continued, “I’ve been living with my boyfriend the last couple of months. We’ve been dating almost a year. Well, two months ago my daughter and I moved in with him. Oh, how I regret that decision,” Cassandra started sobbing behind the…
My wife Kristi and I are invested in helping couples who serve others in ministry. Our heart is for pastors and their wives. As ministry leaders ourselves we know the dangers of being preoccupied and stressed with helping other people while neglecting our own marriage and our own souls. We have been counseling couples and…
After nearly two decades of toning down my perfectionism tendencies and learning to be happy and at peace being an imperfect person in an imperfect world I finally gave in. Enough is enough I decided! I indulged my irrational, dysfunctional desire for perfection and just gave in. I sought perfection in one part of my life –…
It seems like I talk to someone who is anxious almost everyday. I myself have suffered from anxiety for most of my adult life. Thankfully, for many years now I have been mostly free of anxiety. My own experience and my ministry to pastors, leaders, and others has proven to me that there is help…
Millions of people use the Internet compulsively. Internet Addiction Services estimates that 6 to 10% of Internet users are addicted. Addicted to the Internet? Yes. It’s a New World Today we have so many ways to connect online: televisions, desktop computers, lap tops, tablets, and smart phones. It seems the Internet is everywhere we go. Within…
Stress is part of life and it’s certainly part of ministry to others. Most of the pastors, ministry leaders, and caregivers that we talk with have a lot of plates they’re trying to keep spinning in the air! The statistics on Pastor Stress are alarming. For instance, one study showed that on average a pastor…