This free Marriage Needs Test identifies twelve desires that are important to most husbands and wives. It helps you to rank your priorities for how you desire your spouse to show you the love and respect that you need.
Love and Respect
A good marriage needs to be saturated with God’s love and respect.
The Bible makes an important distinction saying, “Husband love your wife” and “Wife respect your husband” (Ephesians 5:25, 33). Of course, everyone needs both love and respect and you can’t very well have one without the other. Love without respect is too weak and respect without love is too distant. But the differentiation is important in that usually wives say that they especially need to feel loved and husbands say that they especially need to feel respected.
Marriage Needs Test
Because people have different ways that they feel loved or respected this Marriage Needs Test identifies twelve common marital desires. Some of these are likely to be important ways for you and for your spouse to know that are loved and respected.
Take the Marriage Needs Test twice. First, on the left column indicate your top six priority desires for your spouse to show you loving attention. All 12 may be important to you, but rank them from 1 to 6, with 1 being the desire that is most important to you.
Then go through the Marriage Needs Test a second time, ranking your perception of your spouse’s marital desires. Using the right column indicate the top six ways that you think your spouse wants you to give loving attention.
|Top 6 Marital Desires for You||Priority Desires in your Marriage||Top 6 Marital Desires for Spouse|
|Having my Spouse Look Attractive|
|Verbal Affirmation / Appreciation|
|Help with Kids|
After you’ve ranked the six marriage desires for yourself and your spouse then discuss this with your spouse. See how well you know each other! Learn how you can better communicate God’s love and respect with your spouse.